[Molu Musings]: Stay Weird

I’m pretty sure you’ve all seen or heard these profound words by Graham Moore at the Oscars this year, circulating about on the internet. Well, I couldn’t agree with him more and I felt I needed to voice the same views on the importance of being different in a world that can be completely obsessed on how you are constantly perceived. And particularly more so in a creative world.

I’ve always been a believer of being different, independent and to not blindly ‘follow like sheep’ in life but I have to admit, that many a times I’ve strayed from those beliefs to conform to what’s seen as the ‘right’ or ‘done’ thing. And many a times this tends to be the ongoing hurdle you endure during your teens and in your 20s – we’ve all been there – until you get to a point later in life where you realise it’s not worth it at all. While it’s absolutely fine to follow the norm, go with the flow, play safe, be average, and ‘fit in’….being different is a whole lot better. Trust me.

To be a unique, independent and strong individual with the ability to stand out from the rest is a great thing. Otherwise, how freaking boring would this place be?? And in all honesty, it’s the one’s who are different, think outside the box, break traditions, and swim against the flow (and I don’t mean in a troublemaking kind a way!!) that are much more content and even successful in life. It may take a little longer to be appreciated for who YOU are but when that time comes, you will be glad for sticking to being you and not the person the world wants to see you as.

So whether you’re in school, college, university, or in any workplace….please do remember to be YOU and to BELIEVE in yourself always. Forget the haters and the judgmental lot. Don’t let the world dictate who you are and who you should be, nor ruin your life and think any less of yourself because a bunch of people don’t get you or see the uniqueness in you. To base your happiness on the acceptance of others or what they think about you, will only lead to misery. You are not here to please every one or fit in with everyone. So please be YOU. When you have accomplished the courage to do so in life, you’ll go far and that’s something I’ve learnt more about in the last few years from the many people I’ve gotten to know and admire, who had the strength and confidence to be themselves…and be different. Surround yourself with people who bring the best out of you too, and if you haven’t yet found those people, you will find them soon enough.

Stay weird. Stay different. And go rock the world because there are a lot more amazing people out there like you….more than you ever know! :)

Thank you Graham Moore for reminding us all of this.

2015: Be kind to yourself

MOLU_BE-KIND-2015-01Happy New Year folks!

I know I’m a few weeks late posting this but it’s been a surprisingly busy start to 2015, where I’ve somehow nose-dived straight into work. Probably for the best seeing as it’s always so difficult switching back to work mode after a long and restful break. So it’s just the right kind of incentive to get you going.

Well, I hope you’ve all had a good start to the year. I’m pretty sure you’ve all got your resolutions and exciting plans for the 2015, many of you turning a new leaf on different aspects of your life. For me, it’s career and well-being; finally setting out to do what I love and makes me happy. It hasn’t been a great journey to get to this place, particularly over the last 18 months where I’ve questioned, doubted, and have been ridden with guilt and fear over where I saw myself going. That ‘not-knowing’ feeling has, quiet frankly, been the worst thing for someone who thought she knew she had everything more or less worked out. There’s been a lot of tears shed and crazy meltdowns because of it, but hey, plans don’t always work…..I know my fair share of that. However, this time round, what I’ve learnt the most out of all this is to cut myself some slack and just find a way to be kind to myself – something I quite often neglect when I’m constantly out there striving to be perfect or trying to achieve all those goals I set for myself.

So anyway, that’s really my motto….or word for this year. Kindness. Not just to others, but to myself. And with that in mind, I’m off to forge my new creative journey, which will no doubt bring its own woes and hurdles but, at least I know what I’ll be telling myself should things get bumpy along the way! :) Here’s to new beginnings and positive outlooks!

Well, what about you? What’s your outlook for 2015? I’d love to hear if you have key word or motto that you plan to follow this year!



PS. Oh and before I forget, I’m busy trying to finish my new portfolio website for the end of the month so I’ll definitely keep you posted on that. You may have already noticed a few changes on here so yea…..it’s slowly getting there! Rebranding yourself is hard!! :) And can you believe it’s been 3 years since I started all this blogging malarkey!!? It’s definitely one of the best things I’ve done and I have my husband to thank for that! x